When you are getting a divorce, there are several things that no amount of self-help books can help prepare you.
Here we talk about the top five things that no one will tell you about your divorce.
1. Moving on is a marathon, not a sprint.
The difference is always very clear, a marathoner normally trains for several hours before the big race. You will agree that divorce strikes most of us unpredictably with absolutely no training on how to get through it.
The best thing to do is to take one step at a time until you find solid footing and every step does not feel like you are walking on quicksand. And also realize that emotions should not be suppressed.
2. A financial advisor is just as important as a lawyer.
Most people, after divorce wish that someone would have told them to hire a financial advisor.
No doubt that divorce can leave you in pretty terrible straits without the proper knowledge and the truth is, divorce proceedings are basically about money.
3. Moving on is a choice.
When the awe and shock have passed, you have a choice: to stay cocooned and bitter about life or to look at your divorce as an important lesson.
And to then pull yourself together for the sake of your children. It is never easy, but it is always necessary.
4. You might second-guess your decision.
Even if you are sure of your decision when you separate, you may not be a year from now. It will certainly be hard after your ex has moved on.
You may wonder whether your children would be better off if you had decided to continue staying with your partner. You might even start second-guessing the divorce.
And while it might be easy to look back on your life with your ex-partner with rose-colored glasses, it’s important to remember that what’s done is done, and it’s important to keep a realistic perspective post-divorce.
5. There is absolutely no shame in getting divorced.
Even though divorce is so common today, it still comes with a certain stigma. We often shame people who decide to divorce.
Some even view them as lazy, failures, or even immoral. But depending on the situation, divorce might be the best decision for you and your partner.
If you or anyone you care about is going through a divorce, then consider an experienced divorce attorney.
At Estevez-Pazos Law Firm, P.A., we walk our clients through the entire divorce process—no matter how simple or complex.
Call us today at 305-717-7130 to schedule your initial consultation.
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